You're saying she has major stuff going on right? I understand - that HAPPENS. But I think you're misreading how I'm using the word used (amongst other things, no where did I claim she was a con artist. 'Personality' should mean little here. Work ethic/reliability do, and she's shown herself to lack in the latter to a degree).
I'm not saying she's using you to be her White Knights.
I'm saying she could have used you like 'big emergency - might fall off face of earth - can you do me a BIG favor and let everyone/this person know [insert message]?'. I've been through the last two serious S.California firestorms, one of which ALMOST claimed my house, but took out 'net/land line phones and power for me at varying times each 'storm'. But before that all happened, I used what friends I could to pass along word of my current situation to anyone who asked and if I DID fall off the face of the earth, they wouldn't have to panic (too badly) for however long it took me to get onto my feet again.
Now. One more time.
I know shit happens (I pointed this out). Life hits us hard. Sometimes you will be distracted by other more personal things - but when someone is doing their god damn hardest to get in CONTACT WITH YOU (i.e: phone, instant message, fa notes, etc?) about something, its good practice to answer them best you can in a timely manner (i.e: she's on AIM but away, poster leaves a message, she could have sent one back upon returning?) before they lose good faith in you (*points at the original complaint post*).
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I'm not saying she's using you to be her White Knights.
I'm saying she could have used you like 'big emergency - might fall off face of earth - can you do me a BIG favor and let everyone/this person know [insert message]?'. I've been through the last two serious S.California firestorms, one of which ALMOST claimed my house, but took out 'net/land line phones and power for me at varying times each 'storm'. But before that all happened, I used what friends I could to pass along word of my current situation to anyone who asked and if I DID fall off the face of the earth, they wouldn't have to panic (too badly) for however long it took me to get onto my feet again.
Now. One more time.
I know shit happens (I pointed this out). Life hits us hard. Sometimes you will be distracted by other more personal things - but when someone is doing their god damn hardest to get in CONTACT WITH YOU (i.e: phone, instant message, fa notes, etc?) about something, its good practice to answer them best you can in a timely manner (i.e: she's on AIM but away, poster leaves a message, she could have sent one back upon returning?) before they lose good faith in you (*points at the original complaint post*).
That's. That.