Just so we're clear to avoid future misunderstandings: Please make sure you reply if I do end up contacting you because if you don't we'll just end up right back in the same situation as now and I know neither one of us wants that. And don't worry, now that I've gotten your attention and we've made some progress on resolving this, if I message you I'll wait a week or two to give you time to reply--just don't let messages drag on too long without replying and everything will be fine.
As for my Anthrocon 2009 commission: I "might" be willing to continue with it if you are willing. Please tell me if you want to proceed with it and I'll decide what I want to do. However, as a precaution, I must still ask you to refund me for it right now [$100US to my PayPal: astrodra(at)hotmail(dot)com ].
If we decide to go ahead with the AC2009 commission and we agree on the details (or lack of details ^^ ) and how often (eg. once a month?) and under what circumstances I can expect to hear from you, then I give you my word that I will pay you when it's finished. If you trust me to be an honorable and fair-minded person then I ask you to believe that and trust me like I trusted you.
If you're not willing to work on it unless you keep the money, then cancel it and just refund me please. I'd rather have peace of mind than artwork from a talented artist, whom I admire for his talent, but who might soon-after return to ignoring my messages and being very difficult to contact; an artist who's solution to problems with me (up until now) has been to remain inexplicably silent rather than talk to and inform me of them so that I'm aware of his grievances and furthermore know what they are so that I can try to work with him to address them.
I still think there's hope we can work together Gunmouth and I'd like to be friends but right now I hope you can understand why I'm unwilling to leave the money for my AC2009 commission with you and want a refund for it.
I mean, say you were willing to proceed. I'd want to have dialogue with you when we're working on it (discussing details and periodically asking you how things are coming along). From what I understand, you would just find me annoying if I did that. So, if we are to proceed with it, we need to sort this out first. I was ok with giving you the money upfront for the AC2009 commission while we worked on it because I had no reason to think I'd have this much difficulty keeping in touch with you and I wasn't aware you objected to how I've handled myself at the convention and when commissioning you. After what's happened, I'm not willing to trust you as far as I once was, which is why I want the refund for the AC2009 commission.
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Just so we're clear to avoid future misunderstandings: Please make sure you reply if I do end up contacting you because if you don't we'll just end up right back in the same situation as now and I know neither one of us wants that. And don't worry, now that I've gotten your attention and we've made some progress on resolving this, if I message you I'll wait a week or two to give you time to reply--just don't let messages drag on too long without replying and everything will be fine.
As for my Anthrocon 2009 commission:
I "might" be willing to continue with it if you are willing. Please tell me if you want to proceed with it and I'll decide what I want to do. However, as a precaution, I must still ask you to refund me for it right now [$100US to my PayPal: astrodra(at)hotmail(dot)com ].
If we decide to go ahead with the AC2009 commission and we agree on the details (or lack of details ^^ ) and how often (eg. once a month?) and under what circumstances I can expect to hear from you, then I give you my word that I will pay you when it's finished. If you trust me to be an honorable and fair-minded person then I ask you to believe that and trust me like I trusted you.
If you're not willing to work on it unless you keep the money, then cancel it and just refund me please. I'd rather have peace of mind than artwork from a talented artist, whom I admire for his talent, but who might soon-after return to ignoring my messages and being very difficult to contact; an artist who's solution to problems with me (up until now) has been to remain inexplicably silent rather than talk to and inform me of them so that I'm aware of his grievances and furthermore know what they are so that I can try to work with him to address them.
I still think there's hope we can work together Gunmouth and I'd like to be friends but right now I hope you can understand why I'm unwilling to leave the money for my AC2009 commission with you and want a refund for it.
I mean, say you were willing to proceed. I'd want to have dialogue with you when we're working on it (discussing details and periodically asking you how things are coming along). From what I understand, you would just find me annoying if I did that. So, if we are to proceed with it, we need to sort this out first. I was ok with giving you the money upfront for the AC2009 commission while we worked on it because I had no reason to think I'd have this much difficulty keeping in touch with you and I wasn't aware you objected to how I've handled myself at the convention and when commissioning you. After what's happened, I'm not willing to trust you as far as I once was, which is why I want the refund for the AC2009 commission.
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