I hope you understand that by making real world threats against the OP like this you can get yourself into a whole new world of trouble. Saying you'll find her and mess her life up? Really? That can get you banned from Livejournal and on FA if you threaten her there, too.

You got yourself into this mess with your behavior, and it isn't her fault if she decides to warn people about it. Stop trying to be abusive and emotionally manipulate her. The only person to blame for your "life being ruined" is yourself. No one's intimidated. At all.