To answer you question, I am capable of being brief but I don't like to be.
To demonstrate that, I'll reply with both a brief and long version. :3
Note: I think when I'm brief I often give the impression of being abrupt which is another reason I try to be wordy sometimes. So, really, know that I respect your comment and you really raised good points and that I'm not offended. :3
SHORT VERSION: No, I've never been diagnosed with Autism.
I choose to be wordy to explain things better but can be brief.
I don't normally miss people's discomfort. If they're really uncomfortable, they need to speak-up.
I'm not going to hide myself away because sometimes I meet people who don't like me. If I'm at a convention, I'm going to go and buy art. I'm going to live my life. You're right however that online gives me more time.
REGULAR VERSION:
No, I've never been diagnosed as Autistic but to be honest with you it wouldn't surprise me if I were to be and found to have it or something similar to it. It's not something I care to contemplate much since no one likes to think there might be something wrong with them. But, in terms of how I've had a long-life tendency to be detailed and other small things I must in fairness admit it is at the very least conceivable. Either way, it's not something I would have mentioned on my own in this thread because it's too much of a personal detail and it would have felt more like I was trying to make an excuse rather than directly addressing the specific issues brought against me. I can be brief but I hate doing it.
In terms of commissions there's no-way to know what an individual artists comfort-zone is until I actually approach them and find out. As I've said, I do agree I need to reduce the material I have and organize it better. However, even if I've thought what I've given to some artists is a bit excessive, I never thought it was totally over the top or else I'd never have given it to them.
I agree that commissioning artists online would make things more leisurely than in person where time is more limited. However, I'm not going to stop living my life and going to places simply because some people don't like me or disagree with me. Besides, I would never learn how to improve myself then! :3 I think what precipitated my situation with Gunmouth is fundamentally a personality conflict. It happens unfortunately but that's just part of life. Whereas I would have said something to me had I been in his position at the convention, he decided not to. He just made a different judgment call. It was just a misunderstanding.
In regard to my not picking up on other people's discomfort, I don't think that's normally true. Gunmouth and Kami did made it clear-enough that I was taking a bit too long at MFF so I tried to go faster and be more prepared at AC. Even so, I do admit I tend to take awhile and I still need to work on my material but I don't think I'm that bad. It's possible I might have been so focused on passing along the information that I didn't hear or notice what someone else may have been trying to say to me but I'm sure that if they went out of their way to get my attention (by tapping me or coming right up to me and talking to me) I'd notice them.
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Date: 2010-08-04 10:46 pm (UTC)To answer you question, I am capable of being brief but I don't like to be.
To demonstrate that, I'll reply with both a brief and long version. :3
Note: I think when I'm brief I often give the impression of being abrupt which is another reason I try to be wordy sometimes. So, really, know that I respect your comment and you really raised good points and that I'm not offended. :3
SHORT VERSION:
No, I've never been diagnosed with Autism.
I choose to be wordy to explain things better but can be brief.
I don't normally miss people's discomfort. If they're really uncomfortable, they need to speak-up.
I'm not going to hide myself away because sometimes I meet people who don't like me. If I'm at a convention, I'm going to go and buy art. I'm going to live my life. You're right however that online gives me more time.
REGULAR VERSION:
No, I've never been diagnosed as Autistic but to be honest with you it wouldn't surprise me if I were to be and found to have it or something similar to it. It's not something I care to contemplate much since no one likes to think there might be something wrong with them. But, in terms of how I've had a long-life tendency to be detailed and other small things I must in fairness admit it is at the very least conceivable. Either way, it's not something I would have mentioned on my own in this thread because it's too much of a personal detail and it would have felt more like I was trying to make an excuse rather than directly addressing the specific issues brought against me. I can be brief but I hate doing it.
In terms of commissions there's no-way to know what an individual artists comfort-zone is until I actually approach them and find out. As I've said, I do agree I need to reduce the material I have and organize it better. However, even if I've thought what I've given to some artists is a bit excessive, I never thought it was totally over the top or else I'd never have given it to them.
I agree that commissioning artists online would make things more leisurely than in person where time is more limited. However, I'm not going to stop living my life and going to places simply because some people don't like me or disagree with me. Besides, I would never learn how to improve myself then! :3 I think what precipitated my situation with Gunmouth is fundamentally a personality conflict. It happens unfortunately but that's just part of life. Whereas I would have said something to me had I been in his position at the convention, he decided not to. He just made a different judgment call. It was just a misunderstanding.
In regard to my not picking up on other people's discomfort, I don't think that's normally true. Gunmouth and Kami did made it clear-enough that I was taking a bit too long at MFF so I tried to go faster and be more prepared at AC. Even so, I do admit I tend to take awhile and I still need to work on my material but I don't think I'm that bad. It's possible I might have been so focused on passing along the information that I didn't hear or notice what someone else may have been trying to say to me but I'm sure that if they went out of their way to get my attention (by tapping me or coming right up to me and talking to me) I'd notice them.
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